Please discuss one of the below topics in detail. You are to bring your perspective to the topic
Discussion Topics
I. Dating
II. Marriage
III. Erikson (Stage 5, Stage 6)
IV. Freud- Sexual development/human nature
V. Family and relationships
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elizabeth easterling~*
on the subject (as that is a subject to discuss) i think one should date for at least those 3 years befor marrieing to let the madness wear off so that one avoids the messy divorces ...but thats just my opinion
CHANDA:
I.Dating-In my opinion dating is getting to know someone better and building a friendship, so that you can either choose to have something more with a person, or decide that they arnt right for you....I dont think of dating as a committment, it's sorta like a learning experience...some people think that once you get one date with someone that it's an automatic intimate relationship...but its not, its so you can decide if you want an intimate relationship with this person.
Dating is something everybody does to get closer to somebody. Later on you may choice to either stay with them or leave them. The way you carry on a date is what really matters. There is a key to dating and how to makes things work in the future. The key is having three dates with no intimate connection whats so ever. For example, no kissing, holding hands, emotional hugs, and ect. On those dates you can ask questions about your partner and really think if you really want to be with this person. A lot of people get physical feelings get in the way of deciding if that person is right for them. They may spend a long relationship with that person for months or years and never be happy and wounder why.
Too many people get married for the wrong reasons. They think they're in love, they want the financial benefits, etc. All of that drama can be avoided by not getting married at all. You don't need a legal document to tell you that you love someone. Plus, it would save a butt load of money.
~ sarah m.
elizabeth easterling~*
indeed...indeed chanda intimate relations can really mess things up...
but gigolo some people want that document for sentimentle reasons you know some thing to say its real you cant say theres something wrong with that can you?
Amanda Parker
Dating/Relationships:
Dating is something that should help you find the one person you have been looking for, that perfect person...although no one is perfect. It should be the timewhere you get to know the person and understand what they are about...how they think and what they think about. You should know what makes them happy, sad, upset, and laugh. This should be the time that you know that thesequalities are okay with you, that they are ones you like even though they are horrible to every other person. Dating is a way to prepare you for marriage.
Then, once you are ready, you should consider marriage. You should know that both of you are ready, mentally and physically. Marriage is when you know for a fact that this is the person you not only know youlove thembut you can sit down with them and talk as if you were still best friends(in a sense you still are best friends). You cannot expect to be the total opposite of your spouse and live with them forever. Marriage shouldbe thepoint where younever ever cheat...you should be faithful to this one person til death do you part. Cheating SHOULDNT be an option. If you have the option to cheat one time then the option is there a second time around. Dating and marriage should be two in one, all the same rules should apply. Cheating is cheating, there is no keeping options open. If you cant commit in a realtionship where you are just dating then you cant in marriage.
I always knew marriage was pretty much a waste of time. That's what I always thought. Ever since my parents got divorced, I was actually happy that they did. I knew they weren't happy, and I was young but that's how obvious it was, and within a year I could see how much happier my mum was. My dad, not so much, but still, he got over it. I realized they didn't need each other, and for me, that's what it's about. I don't need anyone so I'll never get married. I thought that everyone became happy when obviously unhappy parents became divorced.
Then when my best friend told me she felt completely opposite about her parent's divorce, I was mega confused. I asked her why she wasn't happy for them, and her answer was selfish. Even so, I thought it was weird that she would be unhappy when her parents were happy alone, or apart, at least. She thought that her parents should be together, and that thought continues to be my main issue with marriage and it's failing: people's reaction towards it.
All in all, I think marriage is a mistake in anyone's case, although admirable to those who are happy in the commitment. I used to not think love was real, but even though it is something created by our minds and the influences of society, that alone makes it real. If love isn't real, niether is fear or happiness or excitement or nervousness. Society causes all those feelings to occur. Or at least it causes when it will occur. There are really too many factors to love and marriage and far too many arguments.
2/3: of course there is nothing wrong with that, but you don't need one. marriage isn't required in order to prove your love for someone.
elizabeth easterling~*
yeah parker its like a 30 day trial (only longer)
#2) marriage- my views on y a maarriage fails that one or both parties of the relationship get as what most ppl call it today as "to comfortable" they stop doin what made the the relationship work,fun,or exciting.
~kendelson~
Dating is like a probation period on a new job. if you were the manager after you carefully chose your new employee, through a thorough process of interviwing, you watch them carefully making sure the take care of their duties responsibility. you ensure that all the customers are pleased with their service and that there are no complaints. after the probation period you sit and evaluate whether this employee would be a valuable investment. if you feel that your company would better without the employee you get rid of them and resume the interviewing process, but if you feel the employee compliments the company you keep the employee, teach the employee, and promote the employee when you feel he is ready.
Amanda Parker
Realationships are not a commitment, but you should leave it there as though it was. You should be ready for a realtionship in that way. i dont believe that intimacy should be a part of dating though. they are a way to get to know the person you plan to be with. but youshould care enough about the person and respect them enough not to date out of the realtionship with anyone else. sometimes,unless thats an agreement, it reallydoes hurt people.
elizabeth easterling~*
what? kendel marriage is not 2 parties its 2 people if there are two parties in your marriagethen thats your first problem
2/3: LULZ.
#5. To be in a relationship, and to be a around my boy's family, I feel that for the relationship to work and last a long time the partner must get along with the family. And they must respect the way that the family is and the way they feel about things. Its a very important aspect of the relationship if the two people plan to be together for a long time. Family will eventually beome a part of the relationship, so when the time is right, everyone that is in a realtionship should meet their partner's family!!!! This will help in finding out if you truely want to be with this person or not!!
elizabeth easterling~*
tes that sounds so negitive... its like ....making love in to a job but i can see what you mean
Jeffrey Martinez
Marriage
I guess I will discuss a bit on my view on marriage, as it is a topic I have found some interest in for quite some time. Marriage, on a moral and traditional standard, is the bonding of two people. Two people who agree and decide that they want to spend the rest of their lives with each other regardless of what may happen. However, there are more factors in play when it comes to marriage that most people fail to realize, which may help explain why 50% of marriages in the US fail.
The basis of a successful and of most marriages is love. The attraction between two people is what convinces them that they cannot live without the other person and is the main force behind marriage. This can be both a good thing, as well as a bad thing. On the positive side, there can be no successful or happy marriage if the two people who are committing their lives for one another have no sort of attraction or chemistry with the other person. If they are constantly fighting or fail to find any qualities or features they like of the other individual, then the marriage is a failure before it even started. So love can be used to show whether or not you really want to marry and create such a bond with that person. If you have no feelings for them, then you wouldn't want to spend the rest of your life with him/her.
However, love can also serve in a negative way and can be used against you. Sometimes, people fail to see the line between lust and love. They can’t tell when they love someone and when they just simply like someone. This results in hasty decision that most people make during the “honeymoon phase”. A lot of people jump far too quickly into a marriage, because they believe they are in “love” with the person. However, that rarely is so because in most relationships (especially in young adults) the two lovers don’t even know much about the other person. They are blinded to the truth by the cloud of dopamine that has impaired their vision, filtered their hearing, and drugged their mind, so they cannot see, hear nor comprehend any of the flaws the other may have. So, after a couple of months of “passionate love”, a lot of couples decide to get married because, in their mind, they love each other. But, once they’ve recovered from their overdose of dopamine, they start to see better, hear better, and realize that the person they’ve “loved” is a not truly the one they wanted. This results in more fights, and people start becoming unfaithful, the lies start flowing out, some beatings in many cases, silent treatments, children begin to get depressed, and it all ends in either divorce, misery, or the death of one (or of both) partners. This urge of getting married so quickly is why most marriages fail so quickly. If people simply waited to get to know the person and see if they are truly compatible, then maybe, their chances of staying together and having a successful marriage would increase greatly.
2 of 3 u no wat i ment lol
well two of three it wasn't meant to be negative but if you really compare the two you'll see im right on point. you decide who you hire, who you fire, and who even gets an iterview after applying
elizabeth easterling~*
tes yeah i know
Joana Roldan
i think marriage should be about two people who really want to be with each other.AS lot of marriages don't work because people are getting married for all the "wrong" reasons, such as, the wellfare of the children involved, religious pressure,and even financial status.I really think that in order for two people to have a healthy relationship and a successful marriage they should get too know each other really well.
elizabeth easterling~*
exactly
(I guess I’m Late on this)....but Yeah I agree With Joana I think marriage is a sacred thing that is shared between 2 human beings who care for one another.... And I think we as a society have gotten away from that. nowadays people are getting married for all da wrong reasons and not taking time to get to know the person that they [claim] to "love" or the person that [they say] they want to spend the rest of their life with...and choices like this lead to nasty divorces
II. Marriage
Many people have been lead to believe that marriage is purely based on love and nothing else when in fact it’s a complex web that includes financial, emotional, and religious values. When you find what so many people call “The one” you have to think about your future with that person and a major part of ones future is financial stability, I mean would you really marry someone that is $50,000 in debt even if you loved them. I do believe that most people would try to work it out before they took this big step with that person for the simple fact that would make it extremely hard for the couple to own a home and make it with those types of problems. Even though people may not want to acknowledge it we are to a certain point arrogant with these types of decisions for example the scenario with ones partner is in debt people put themselves first even though they “love” the other person and would be devoted to them under what ever circumstances that arise (or so we say). In the end if someone was to survey how much financial stability influenced marriage I would say it would be somewhere around 65%.The emotional part of the whole ordeal affects the situation by making each person involved see partnership instead of just love and affection for each other. This helps make a transition from friend to life partner which only lasts if the couple have more then a physical and emotional bond like most people say to make it work you need to base your relationship on a friendship because in the end that’s the strong hold of the relationship. People have to agree on values and religion to reduce the conflicts like Mr. Jones said opposites do not attract.
Elvira:
I completely agree with what you said about how physical feelings get in the way of truly getting to know some one and how dating is just to get to know people better to see if you want something more serious with them, I think more people should take that into consideration when dating some one.
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