By now, I realize that you understand how cool understanding Defense Mechanisms can be. I mean, come on, we have to protect our ego from anxiety right?
You are going to put us down with the 411, while demonstrating your keen understanding of how defense mechanisms work in every day life. On the same posting, please discuss a recent moment that you used a defense mechanism on someone, and, discuss a time that someone used a defense mechanism towards you.
Both scenarios must be complete to satisfy the requirement.
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Throughout the day majority of us use atleast 3 of the defense mechanisms.But I can recall my recent time using one was when i became enraged with my aunt I proceeded to throw down alot of things in her home. I used displacement because i took my anger out on other things instead of her.
One of my mail cousins is 17 years old but when he's angry he acts like an 8 year old. This particular behavior is labeled as regression. He reverts back to less mature behavior when he is mad.
1. I took a test once and recieved a bad grade because i didn't study for it. I knew for a fact if i had studied for the test,i would have reiceved a better grade with no problem. I used the rationalization defense mechanisim in this situation.
2. Couple years ago it was april fools. I decided to play a joke on my boyfirend. I told him that i have cheated on him and things wouldn't work out. He was in denail and didn't want to accept the truth. He used the denail defnese mechanisim. I later told him it was a joke and he was releaved.
CHANDA SAID:
This morning my friend Gina and I were talking, about what I dont remember(lol), and while we were talking I ended up scratching myself on the face, and I said "D*** it Gina!! I scratched my face, its all your fault!!" Of course I was only joking but still thats projecting.
Before my sister moved in with our dad, whenever she wouldnt get her way with our mom or with me she would either whine or throw a temper until she would get her way.
The last time i used a defense mechanism i used displacdement against my little brother. My mom and i got into an argument and i was so mad i took it out on my little brother because of course i couldn't hit her.
The last time i had a defense mechanism used on me was when my best friend used regression on me. I told her i wouldn't take her to the mall and she threw a temper tantrum she was acting like a child so i just left. She didn't talk to me for a week.
I remember a few times last year when I was in 10th grade school was starting to get stressful. The teachers not cooperating, the system being slow, and my grades declining, I wasn't feeling too good. A few times at night I would be alone trying to watch a movie but I had an ancient DVD player, like when they first came out. It was not working properly and I took a lot of my frustrations from school as well as the DVD player on the DVD player by punching it. I used the displacement defense mechanizm on the DVD player and ended up with a few scars on my knuckles.
Another situation was when I recently went to this event called the Ultra Music Festival. At this festival I met this girl... and we had ALL the chemistry. Later on when the event was finishing, she had to go. I ended up not getting any contact information on her and we would never see each other ever again. We were so involved in what we were doing there was little communication except physical communication. So afterward I was depressed, probably from the Dopamine injections and a variety of other chemicals. I ended up rationalizing by saying to myself "Fate, we weren't meant to be together because she is 24, I am 17, and I lied about my age, I should appreciate it for what it was when it occured." Who knows what would have and what could have occured... but I feel better now that I have rationalized my lost situation.
recently there was an incident at my job. one of the employees had gotten in trouble for not following directions. she was asked to go to her register because the line was long, she said okay but she began to talk to her co-workers (two other employees and i). in our line of work the customer comes before everything and the cashiers are the most important because they deal with the money and they are the last person the customer interacts with before they leave the store, but anyways the maneger came back wondering why the line was still long and when she saw the employee talking she told her go home and that SHE WILL DO IT HER SELF. being that this employee is in trouble often she felt as if she was going to lose her job and began to scream and curse at us as if we got her in trouble which wasn't the case. the defense mechanism she used was displacement she took her angry out on us instead of herself which was indeed the cause of her problem.
this is not one incident but many a times when i what something or i have an urge to do things that society or even just my parents wouldn't agree with i would buy an brownie earthquake. this brownie earthquake is vanilla icream with brownies and oreo crumbs topped with hot fudge and melted marshmellow. it instanly satisfies my cravings and my parents nor society see anything wrong with a child eating ice cream. my defense mechanism was sublimation.
The last time I used a defense mechanism was last night when I was at my significant others house and we got into a minor disagreement and even though I wanted to apologize for starting up an argument, I resulted to reaction formation and started yelling all types of mean slurs and hurtful comments.This is reaction formation because even though I felt one way I showed another.
Yesterday was also the last time someone used a defense mechanism towards me, my mom was upset with my sister for some reason and next thing you know she was yelling and screaming at me. The defense mechanism she used was displacement.This is displacement because even though she was supposedly mad at my sister, she started to yell and scream at me.
RATIONALIZATION
1. Last year in my Alegbra II class I didnt study for a test,and of course when it came time to take the test, I didnt know what I was doing.When I got my test back i had recieved a D. I knew I could of done better if I studied. I told my mother that the test was very hard and nobody had passed it.
DISPLACEMENT
2.A few weeks ago my sister got mad at her boyfriend, and when I came home from work I went to go ask her a question. She started acting crazy, and went off yelling. I just turned away and walked off.
Elizabeth Rodriguez said:
A couple of days ago, during spring break, i was hanging out with my friend, i prefer not to say a name, and we where having a good time. Then we started talking about a subject that she was a little deffensive about, so she atarted to get anger, i told her not to act that way because she started the converstation. She thought about it and said ok, but at that very moment her mother walked in the room, and asked her "what are you doing?", she began to yell at her mother for no reason..... she was using the defense mechanism.... of DISPLACEMENT!!!
1. I have also used a defense mechanism, recently. To start off i want to remind you I'm 17, going on 18, and i can still act like a little kid. I went to the super market with my mommy and little niece, i was walking up and down the ailes and i spoted something i wanted, so i asked my mom for it and she said no, without thinking about it, i don't even think she even looked at it, but anyways i remembered that when i was about 9 i would start begging and eventually i would get what i want, so i started to beg. I got what i wanted but my mom was highly upset... i was using REGRESSION!!!! LOL
PROJECTION
my mom says that im lazy and i lose things by miss placeing them, yet she loses twice the stuff i do and wont even get up to look for it!!!!
REGRESSION
i was at a store and i wanted a candy bar but no one buy me one so i regressed and threw a tantrum...
but realy i dont use defense mechanism either that or I'm in denial...lol
-elizabeth e
1. i used the rationalization by making up excuses for not passing the test.
(Monique Girard)
I remember when I was little, maybe about 10 or 11 years old, my mom would always yell at me for small things that would get done in the house it got so bad that I inturn took it out on my little sister. I would push her, slap her around a bit, you know the usual, and she would just ask me why i was being so cruel and at the time I never really understood my behavior myself. But looking back on it now, that form of displacement was a defense mechanism that most people go through.
Another situation where someone used a defense mechanism on me was when my friend started to act real distant and moody when she found out i was going with my significant other. It got so bad that when I asked her what was wrong she said that she my relationship won't last and my significant other had stole me away from her in real nasty tone of voice. Two days later she apologized, however in later conversations she would say slick comments like, "they didnt answer the phone? hmm..They probably out withb someone else." Little things like that made me question her again with her telling me that she has no feelings at all toward the situation. I later came to realize that she was going through repression.
I have used some defense mechanisms frequently in my life such as the ones that we have learned in class. I have also realized that I have done it unconsciously. There was a recent time where I used rationalization, my guy best friend told me that one of my girl best friends wasn’t a good friend and so he told me I should stop being friends with her. I tried to cover it up by making excuses, that maybe she’s not being herself around him, or she was going to get better she’s going through a stage. Then I started using projection at my guy friend because I thought he was the problem, yes he was the one that was trying to ruin my 5-year friendship with her, he was jealous because I didn’t give him all the attention that he thought he deserved. But in the end I cut my friendship off with my girl friend....
Defense mechanisms are regularly used in life, most people want to protect their egos and self esteem so they defend themselves and those they care for. For example; there was a time when I used the denial mechanism after I found out that a family member passed away. I didn't wanna accept the reality that they were gone so I made up my own reality that didn't exsist.
I've also had many encounters with people who use their own kind of defense mechanism when they've felt threatend by others. One of my friends for example used repression during her parents divorce and when asked about it does not know what anyone is talking about. Sometimes this repression can be unhealthy but it helps her grieve.
sarah mattson >
Displacement DESU:
1.) I was fighting with my mother and we were yelling at each other. Then she left the house and my grandmother asked me to do something and I yelled at her.
Projection DESU
2.) I told my friend that he insults me a lot and that he patronizes me all the time. Then he said that he never makes fun of me and that I'm the one that insults him all the time.
Recently I have used a defense mechanism on the boy I talk to. I have practiced displacement. My mother goes on and on about issues that are not serious. She makes things seem worse than they really are. This makes me very upset because there could be so many things that I could do wrong as a young adult. As a responsible one she has nothing to worry about yet she still try’s to keep me in the house. WHY? I am eighteen years old. This affects my relationship with the boy I talk to because after begging and pleading with her to get out the house I get to him and I am so upset. I get so upset to the point where I don’t speak to him, I tell him I don’t feel like being bothered and ultimately I end up back home.
The boy I talk to on the other hand uses, projection. During our adult conversations (arguments) he tends to turn things all around to make me seem like the bad guy or girl. For example, one day he asked me a question in which I asked him one back because I did not understand the question. He got mad and debated that the whole thing was might fault because you cant answer a question wit a question. I am curious to know why if you really don’t understand it. Another example is a day when we were playing around and I said don’t touch me as usual. He then said ok I wont touch you and proceeded not to for three days straight. He said it was my fault I did not get any kisses because I asked him no to touch me. Lol! Life goes on….
There are so many different defense mechanisms that I use on a normal basis.One that stands out forever and always was the time when I was young and my mother beat me for playing outside too late. My brother was a bystander in all this so knowing that she's my mother and I had no "say so", I just took my anger out on my brother. This is the act of displacement.
Before this year started, I told my mother that I was leaving out of the house and wouldn't need her help anymore. She was in complete denial and said I was wrong and I will always need her in my life.
1. While hard things have happpenedd to me. Alot of work at home and teachers pushing me because of the AP exam coming up. To escape from the pressure i found myself using regression. i started to act more immature by making jokes, just acting dump from time to time not getting enought rest becouse i stay up all night watching TV that would make me happy make me smile and starthung out with friends with more and more.
2. Latly my best friend has been spanding more and more time with his girlfriend. When we call him out to play he is usually with her. When we tell him that he should also hung out with us becouse we dont want our friendship to end. He always uses the denial mechanism. He says that no he doesnt and that he sees her less then us and that he is always with us, he says that our friendship wont fall apart while its happing
One the defense machanism that I use almost every other day is displacement. Yesterday my mom got me very angry about the dishes being dirty in the sink when I didn't even put one there! Few minutes later my sister tried asking me a question and I didn't even let her finish her sentence. I yelled at her to leave me alone! I took my anger out on my sister.
The other day my boyfriend hung up the phone on me because I called him while he was taking a nap. Later on that day when he tried calling me back I gave him the biggest attitude ever. I told him he hung up on me earlier and I was very upset. But he didn't believe me he was in denial because he had no memory of it ever happening.
Scenario #1
Displacement
When me and my father got into a fight once I was so mad that after we stop the fight I took it out on my best friend by yelling at her and saying certain things that I knew would hurt her all because of my anger towards my faher at the time. In the end she forgave me and understood that I didn'treally want to make her feel bad and that I had displaced my anger.
Scenario #2
Projection
This morning I hit my toe on the bed post in the dark and I yelled at my sister "You see what you did I hit my toe because of you..Its all your fault!!"joking around even thought it was my fault since I didnt turn on the light as well as not watching where I was going.
RATIONALIZATION
Just yesterday i had the boys basketball coach come up to me and he said what are me and my sister doing about getting into college i told him that we applied to several places . A week before that we had went on a college visit that he setupfor us and when we went up their we were out of shape so when we returned back he had already hearad the news and he was like you guys need to get in shape to go off to someone school. So i keep blaming my coach for the reasons we were not in shape and if this would of happened we wouldn't have had this problem.
DENIAL
My boyfriend always tell me that he doesn't kiss and doesn't do that so as i kept talking to him he still would deny he don't kiss. So shortly after that he started to kiss me and im like whats up with that i thought you said you dont kiss. He said he wanted me to make the first move but i didnt which turned into rationalization.
sierra samuels
1. One time i got a bad grade on my chemistry test, and i said it was because the teacher didn't prepare us for what was on the test.rationalization
2. My big brother and my dad would never get along with each other. every time they would argue my big brother would hurt me because he knew i could hit him back.projection
it me KENDELSON... well one time i used a defense mechanism was wen me and my mother were having one of our daily arguments... i was mad at her wen we finised arguing but i didt show it towards her, everytime my sisters said something i would yell at them and tell them to shut the freak up....... and one person used it one on me once... i saw the person not being themselfs and i asked them if anything was wrong and they said nothing wrong with me im alright... 10 minutes later she started to cry... she put a wall around herself cuz she didnt want to let me know wat was wrong with her
kendelson
Pilar
Rationalization:
I recently recived a D in my Economics class and my mother saw the grade and asked me "what was the problem?".I made it seem like the teacher was the problem and "it was his fault", "he could'nt teach", "he did'nt like me". insted of telling her truthfully I just did'nt put forth the effort.
Displacement:
onr time my mom was yelling at my sister because she did'nt wash her clothes on her designated day and she caused a back up on the laundry routines. so ut of fustration my sister took my clothres out of the dryer, slug my room door open and threw my clothes on top of my bed and yelled at me "get your own clothes next time"!.......I just laughed
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